“Power is so characteristically calm, that calmness in itself has the aspect of strength.” Edward George Bulwer-Lytton
Be true to yourself. Don’t cheat yourself. Don’t be afraid to look in the mirror.
How many times have you heard these, or some variant of them? What do these mean to you? When did you first truly ask yourself — er, the mirror — “Who is the [insert self-affirming adjective here] one of all”? More importantly, when did you first take head of the answer, and what impact did it have on your life?
I recently had a very tough conversation with a beloved protege that led me to revisit this concept. It reminded me of a drastically different situation that caused me to do what I asked of her — to look in the mirror, be honest about what you see and, if you are not satisfied with what you see, be sincere in your actions to grow.
It sounds so simple. It actuality, it can be so hard. Sometimes it stings. When you are sincere, though, and you really want to grow, it’s always rewarding. Here’s my flashback…
Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more. –H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Deep down I believe everyone wants to help someone. Which is a good thing, because everyone needs help at one time or another throughout their lives. But there is a lot of power in helping, for the one requesting the help and the one providing it.
Sign of Strength
Sometimes though, pride gets in the way and they are afraid to ask for it. People think asking for help is a weakness. When it is actually a strength. Because you are acknowledging something you’re struggling with or can’t do. And instead of giving up, you’re finding a way to get it done.
Asking for help is helping someone else as well, since people get fulfilled by being able to assist others in a positive way. I think if more people saw it like that, it would change things. People would be more willing to ask for assistance since they could see it as a two-way street that both the helper and requestor are benefitting. Short and simple, helping others makes you feel good.